In our last podcast, we reviewed the positives that came out of the craziness of 2020. This episode looks forward to a better and better 2021. Join us to get a peek at our plans and how you can take control of your life and live it to the fullest as one of The Luckiest People in the World.
Transcript:
Diane Dayton 0:02
This is Changing the Rules, a podcast about designing the life you want to live, hosted by KCDempster and Ray Loewe, the luckiest guy in the world.
KC Dempster 0:13
Good morning, everybody. This is KC Dempster. I'm here in the Wildfire Podcast Studios with Ray Loewe. And it is a beautiful day in Woodbury, New Jersey. And I know Ray's just dying to jump in here, but I'm going to hold on to this for a minute. This is Changing the Rules, a podcast about taking control of your life, living it the way you want to live, and we are trying to bring you topics and guests who can help you go down that path. Good morning, Ray.
Ray Loewe 0:45
Thank you. And we're in the wonderful Wildfire Studios. You know, we have completed our first full year of podcasting. Okay, we did that with the last episode, actually. And we've completed 49
KC Dempster 0:59
actually, we've completed 50
Ray Loewe 1:01
Yeah, that's right. Okay, nitpick Go ahead.
KC Dempster 1:04
Well, that's my job.
Ray Loewe 1:06
And And the interesting thing is, we could not have done that without help. We've been guided through the process by the people at Wildfire. They have been wonderful. If you're looking for podcasting places one of the places to be okay, yeah, so let's talk about this year, because it's a brand new year. And we're going to change because we changed the rules, right?
KC Dempster 1:30
That's right. And there's, there's hopefully going to be a lot of positive change the vaccine is, is already getting to some people, and hopefully it will get to all of us within the next, I guess they're saying six months to really get to everybody. But then we can start to maybe ditch the masks or, you know, go see our friends and hug our family. And, you know, I'm looking forward to that.
Ray Loewe 1:52
But the amazing thing is, we're we're in a position to use the time that we have, you know, there's been a lot of people that have complained about losing a year out of their life here. And that's possible, if you don't do anything, right, but the luckiest people in the world don't do that. They're out expanding their lives. They're learning. They're, they're good. They're learning new techniques, we're gonna find out about some of this stuff, as we look back towards last year, and look ahead towards next year,
Kris Parsons 2:19
Hey, I just I just finished about 20 things on my to do list that's been on there for 15 years.
Ray Loewe 2:24
And if you don't take advantage of your time, then we're gonna throw you out of the The Luckiest People in the World Community. So there. So so looking forward. I think we've learned some things last year, we interviewed a whole lot of the luckiest people in the world. And they were, they were motivating, interesting, fascinating people. And they're exciting. And we're not going to stop that. We're going to continue doing some of that. But we're also going to look at some of the things that our luckiest people in the world community tell us that they want.
KC Dempster 3:01
Okay,
Ray Loewe 3:02
so we're going to do some theme theme series in here. One of them that we're going to do, excuse me, is we're going to talk about the legacy that people are leaving, you know, we all leave a legacy whether we want to or not, right, kids grandchildren have lasting impressions of who we are and how they think about us.
KC Dempster 3:21
Right a legacy is more than money.
Ray Loewe 3:24
Oh, yeah. Forget the money part. While your kids don't watch it, yeah.
KC Dempster 3:31
That was that was my eye roll that prompted that one.
Ray Loewe 3:34
But But you know, I remember, you know, a maiden aunt I had long ago. And I remember her, I did not forget her, okay. But I hated every time I had to meet with her. And my mother was insistent that I was nice. And she was the aunt that that smelled of this old people's perfume. Used to pinch your cheeks and say how much you've grown. And I would duck outta there as fast as I could. And then I remember other relatives. I remember my grandmother really well. And when I think of my grandmother, I think of the smell of cooking.
KC Dempster 4:11
Right? Yeah, she lived with you.
Ray Loewe 4:12
Oh my and and and so the impression that we leave with our kids, our grandchildren and everybody else around us. Is there. Mm hmm. Okay, and we have time to make that whatever we want. Right? So we had a young lady last year Ashley Allen Come on and talk about the personal brand that you leave. And the personal brand is how people remember you how they think of you. So we're gonna bring her back this year and we have a young lady who's just called in. I think Bonnie Shea is on the line. Right? Hi, Bonnie,
Bonnie Shay 4:46
I'm on the line.
Ray Loewe 4:47
Okay, so say happy new year to everybody.
Kris Parsons 4:51
Hi Bonnie, Kris Parsons here.
Bonnie Shay 4:52
Happy New Year. Good to hear you Kris, too.
Ray Loewe 4:56
Okay, so. So Bonnie was with us on one of our podcasts last year. And she told us a number of stories one was about falling off a bike. And what we learned is the luckiest people in the world really should plan on not falling off their bike
KC Dempster 5:10
and wearing wear a helmet,
Ray Loewe 5:12
okay, and wearing a helmet. But we're bringing Bonnie back this year, because Bonnie is a photo organizer. And she's taking a really interesting look at photos. So Bonnie talk a little bit about what most people do in terms of they take this bunch of photos, they stick it in a book, and nobody ever looks at them. Right?
Bonnie Shay 5:33
Exactly. Or they hide them in your attics or their basements because their boxes and boxes worth of them. And they move them from one house to the next. And they never look at them. And to me, people have a photographic story in their printed photos. And to me, it's a treasure, it's a gift. And so luckily, I'm poised in my profession to help people curate their wonderful collection of photos, reconnect with them, and realize that it's really a gift that keeps on giving. And let's share it.
Ray Loewe 6:06
Yeah, and you're doing some unique things. And we're gonna have you on a podcast later. So we're gonna do a whole 20 minutes, maybe more on this, but but talk a little bit about your most recent endeavor into getting people were in photographs to talk about the photograph, and how to make that photo live.
Bonnie Shay 6:27
Exactly. So I have a client and I'm working with his mother who is in her 80s. And he asked me to record his mom talking about the photos. And so I took that idea, and I ran with it. And I basically would sit with her and we could do it socially distanced. But I had a microphone so she could talk and I would show her a photo. And she would tell a story about it. And I could even prompt her with some follow up questions because I knew what she knew about the story. So now I have an audio recording of her voice, which is golden. And then I have the scanned photo color corrected. So it's a beautiful stellar version of the photo. And I in my work area, go and make a short video of her voice with the photo or maybe even a series of photos if it's a particular event. And it could be 1-3 minute long. They're not these length, full length movies. But they're just golden. And I've shared them with my client and his mom and his sisters. And they will have their mom's story whether they've heard it before or not. They want to hear it again and again and again.
Ray Loewe 7:31
And you don't have to look through 10,000 photos in a dusty album. Okay, you know, exactly. And I think this is wonderful. This just shows the creativity of Bonnie is certainly one of our luckiest people in the world. And it just shows what they can bring to bear on. I guess we call it a problem. Hopefully it's an opportunity, not a problem. Yeah. And Bonnie shared with me a couple of other things. And while you're on the line, I'd like to enter into them, even though they're not your area of expertise, particularly, one of the other things we're going to talk about is storytelling, and how you craft stories. Now you just gave us one example of how you can take a photo and merge it together with audio and video and create this story. But you're telling me about some of these other organizations that craft stories of people's lives and showcase them somehow? Would you comment on them for a minute?
Bonnie Shay 8:31
Yeah, I mean, I think StoryWorth is one of them, which I haven't investigated personally. But I plan on doing that this year where they have questions that they can ask people, let's say each week they get a question emailed to them. And they have it's not a blank canvas that they just start talking about their past. It's like a prompting question. And that you can write, you know, 50 words, 100 words, it's not a big thing, but you're reminiscing and you're reconnecting with your memories and of making them available for your family. So that's one. I also, can I'm going to go off topic just a little bit but I want to tell you what's related to the pandemic is that so many of us are not seeing people who we love in person, we're seeing them on Zoom or any other platform. And it's a lot about visual, right. So we want more pictures, we want more stories, because it sort of has to fill the gap of not being in person with people. Exactly so right you can use videos, audios in our digital world is beautiful, because we can get this out there and enjoy it. Whether we're together in person, which we're not right now or around the world, right time zones, who cares about time zones anymore because we can get on the same calls regardless of what diamond
Ray Loewe 9:49
Yeah, so so thank you so much for dropping in on us, Bonnie and early in the year we're going to have you on and we're going to start opening up this hole idea of storytelling and what are the images that we want people to think about us at because we have the time. And right now we are kind of locked up still. And we're going to be, and what do we want to make sure we do when we get out of this thing. So Bonnie, your thoughts and your ideas are wonderful. And keep saving them up, don't share them with anybody else.
Bonnie Shay 10:25
And I'm only gonna share them with the luckiest people.
Ray Loewe 10:31
Thanks for dropping in and have a great new year, Bonnie, and thanks for being with us.
KC Dempster 10:36
I'm going to jump in very quickly. And to build on what Bonnie was just saying at the end. This past year, while we were in quarantine, my sister had possession of all my father's old home movies that he took of us as children. And she had it digitized. And we shared it with all the siblings, there's seven of us together. And so we set up a zoom call, and played the video and everybody was able to make comments or say Who was that? Because the younger ones don't know who some of the people in the, in the earlier movies were because they had already died by the time they were born. So it was it was it was we laughed? We had, you know, told stories and, and I have recorded the call. And hopefully it's up on YouTube. But if not, I'll it's still in my computer. So it's too big to mail to them. But you know, I do have it available. But it was a great, it was a great evening, we had such a good time.
Ray Loewe 11:40
See, and this just shows what can be done. So anybody that's sitting home and saying that they're bored, right? Has no excuse, right? Okay. You know, you just have to get out and create. I had an interesting experience. And are we gonna get Jeff Lincoln on
KC Dempster 11:59
the line? Actually, already?
Ray Loewe 12:00
Actually, Jeff, happy new year.
Jeff Lincoln 12:04
And Happy New Year, right, guys?
Ray Loewe 12:06
I'm gonna let Kris How are you? Good. I'm gonna let Kristine introduce you after the fact. But I got a story to tell about you before. And it's so pertinent. So Jeff did an event with me and my sisters and my nieces and nephews. Okay. And we have this rather eclectic family. Okay, you know,
KC Dempster 12:29
what else could it be with you?
Ray Loewe 12:31
Well, yeah, we like each other. But we're spread out around the country. And we don't talk very much. And so we wanted to create an event. So what Jeff did is Jeff created a coffee tasting event for us. Now, before we get into the event itself, why don't you give us Kristine between you and Jeff introduce Passero's Coffee to us? Sure.
Kris Parsons 12:51
Sure. Well, Jeff Lincoln and I go way back, we our kids played together when they were little, and our kids are now in their 20s. But Jeff owns, and is the President and CEO, President Lincoln as Ray likes to call him of caseros Coffee locations all around the Philadelphia area. And he had an intriguing time, because he basically had a lot of your customers and correct me if I'm wrong. We're all from the big corporations all around Philadelphia, which kind of closed down. So Jeff had to get a little creative. And I believe that this coffee tasting was one of his grand ideas to find a different way to get his product out there. Get people to learn about it. And just like there's a wine tasting, he's now starting to build his business of coffee tastings, which it was something that was in your your strategic plan for a while. Right, Jeff but but the pandemic helped to come to fruition, his study hall.
Jeff Lincoln 13:47
Yeah. Certainly one of those ideas that was in a manila envelope and never got any further because when, when my shops are all up and running, I don't even have one open currently online. Hopefully spring possibly getting the others back open. You know, some many ideas as a business person you have, you know, and I just don't have the time and you just don't have the time and all of a sudden 2020 I've got the time.
Ray Loewe 14:19
Yeah. And unfortunately, and and look at all of the creativity that has come out. And I'm sure a lot of this is going to flow through into your future in different ways. But let me tell you about this coffee tasting event, which was spectacular. So I had Jeff ship out three half pounds of different coffees to my nieces and nephews and my family. We got on a Zoom call in the morning. We had President Lincoln with us for coffee. We had president coffee with President Lincoln that morning, and we did a coffee tasting online. So we we didn't try and do fancy brewing. We had three cups, I think Some ground coffee. And Jeff led us through this process, which I think you can find out about now on your website. Is that correct, Jeff?
Jeff Lincoln 15:09
That is that is yes.
Ray Loewe 15:10
So anybody who's interested in this, do this. But what a phenomenal event, you know, we rebonded together. Yeah, we spent a wonderful hour everybody showed up. All right, everybody stayed online till the end. Okay. And before that they all had to leave early. And we're gonna do another one, because they said this was great. Let's do another one. Unfortunately, for Jeff, they want to do booze. And
Kris Parsons 15:37
that's fine. funny, because we two things too. Yes, Jeff, we did it in our family. And Ray was talking earlier about being bored. Well, I had college students home during this pandemic, and they get bored very easily. But we did the coffee tasting. And it was really fun, because first of all, they're all starting to get into more and more coffee than they did when they were young. And it was just a fun bonding experience with our immediate family. But I think another great thing, Jeff, and I think this is what you're heading into is the corporate world. Already, the corporate world is getting a little bored with their Zoom calls. And I think Jeff is talking to some companies about incorporating a little coffee tasting or just a little coffee education on the Monday morning or Tuesday morning calls with, you know, all the managers that have to get together, how to keep it a little livelier, and make them all show up as if they have a nice cup of coffee that they can talk about. And then you can give them some fun facts. Let us give us a couple of fun facts that we didn't know about with coffee. Like you're not supposed to freeze it right. Or refrigerate it? Yeah.
Ray Loewe 16:40
Yeah. And I've been doing that for years. No wonder I hated coffee. So just go ahead.
Jeff Lincoln 16:51
No, I was gonna say, Yeah, I do have we've all been zoomed quite a bit this past year. And we've got more of it in front of us. And so the idea is, how can you? How can you keep people on the line and a little, a little more focused and interested in listening to the message that you really need to, once again, entertainment works and these types of coffee tastes, or virtual wine tastings. All help, I think are good tools for people.
Ray Loewe 17:25
Well, you know, thank you for being one of our luckiest people in the world community members and Jeff pops on every once in a while for coffee in the morning on Thursdays. Yeah. Okay,
KC Dempster 17:36
I have to thank Jeff for roasting coffee and sending it out to people because I ordered some blackdog over the holiday to introduce my visiting son to it. And he agreed it's good coffee.
Kris Parsons 17:48
Very good. It's delicious. You convinced my husband who was a big coffee critic, but it's great. And now the nice thing is you have the time to get that online business, moving and sending coffee to everybody. It was a one stop shopping for Christmas in my house. Well,
Ray Loewe 18:05
we're gonna have Jeff back. He doesn't know it yet. But we're certainly going to have him come in to some of our coffee events. And excuse me, probably some of our virtual conference events, and just show up every once in a while we'll drink a toast of caffeine. So Jeff, thanks for being with us. And, and happy new year, and thanks for being one of the luckiest people in the world.
Jeff Lincoln 18:34
Well, thank you guys. Happy New Year. And onto a brighter one.
Ray Loewe 18:41
Show you know in the interest of going forward over here, we have a couple of other people lined up that you guys don't know about yet. So we're going to get the original Philly Phanatic. Okay, we're gonna get a couple of people my age. Growing up the Holocaust, and some of the reasons why they're the luckiest people in the world. And we, you know, we I look at being the luckiest person in the world. I can't even think of what some of these people have gone through in their lives, right? And so we're going to keep introducing new concepts, new people, what are the things in your life that can make it more fulfilling, and make you feel luckier and luckier and luckier and luckier? So Kristine, do you have any other comments before we close up our run show for the day,
Kris Parsons 19:37
no, other than I am going to go back and listen to these podcasts. Again, I like that idea of walking, which I have been doing. It's really a great way to do two things at once. And and it's true when you go back and listen to them again. And I think that is really important to make that point that we do need motivation because there are good days and there's bad days and while the luckiest people in the world have more good days. You know, you can't be happy all the time. So it's always nice to go back and have these touch points to say, Oh, yeah, right. Look what Bonnie's doing. And look what Jeff's doing. And look how Ruth turned her life around. That is helpful. That's all inspirational things that are very helpful for us. And that's why I'm grateful for for Changing the Rules podcast, and we look forward to it every every week. So keep it up, keep up the good work.
Ray Loewe 20:22
KC any final comments over here?
KC Dempster 20:24
No, I'm looking forward to an interesting year of change. And so let's let's go forward with a positive manner. And, you know, I agree with Kris, that I, I think the people we've spoken to have been inspirational. And because I'm the one that actually posts the podcast, and I get involved with getting the transcript up there. I do listen to them. Even after I've been participating in it, I get to listen to it again. And it's, it's really, really uplifting and revealing.
Ray Loewe 20:57
Yeah, and, you know, if you don't take the ideas that are here and use them, then you're not going to feel as lucky as you otherwise would. So, you know, I think going forward, I think we're Our job is to put some interesting material on the table, both in terms of interesting people, and some of the things that interesting people are doing to make our lives more interesting, more fulfilling, give us control over where we want to go. So we'll be back in another weekend. KC, it's up to you to sign us off here.
KC Dempster 21:28
Okay. Well, thank you for listening, everybody. Make sure you come back next week because we're going to have another great podcast.
Diane Dayton 21:37
Thank you for listening to Changing the Rules, a podcast designed to help you live your life the way you want, and give you what you need to make it happen. Join us in two weeks for our next exciting topic on changing the rules with KC Dempster and Ray Loewe the luckiest guy in the world.